Three Things I’ve Learned About Moving Back Home After College

About a week ago I managed to graduate college, and although many people think that means moving on to greater and better things, that’s pry far from the truth.

I’m proud of myself and my accomplishments, don’t get me wrong, but I’ve found myself plopped back right where I was four years ago with only a few changes. I had to move back into my mom’s house, I’m looking for a job, I have no income, and I sit home all day getting bored even though I have a long long long list of things to do. Although I’m looking for jobs and apartments and I actually have a chance to relax I’m really restless and I find myself wondering if I’ll ever get out of this house. After four years, a few thousand dollars, endless amounts of coffee, a few all nighters, and too many moments where I wondered what I was doing with my life I’m back in the same place with the same people, wondering what I’m doing with my life.

So in the last week of living with my mother, brother, and two pets in my childhood home here are some things that I’ve learned.

The first thing that I learned very quickly is that I needed to downsize and get rid of a lot of stuff. Although I hauled about eight bags to donations before I moved there is still more stuff here that I need to get rid of. I also have found that I need to go through my room, since it’s been left untouched for almost three years and really could use a good cleaning.

Although there are a lot of memories in that room that I don’t want to lose, I need to go through and make sure that what I’m keeping are actual memories that mean something and not just things that I don’t want to let go. One of these things is a hat that I got in high school from a party. I don’t think I have ever actually worn the thing, but I keep it because it’s cute and reminds me of that time in my life. I’m honestly pry going to get rid of it, because I have pictures and scrapbooks from that time to help me remember and I’m still friends with those people so old stories come up often.

The second thing that I learned is that communication is key, and designating a spot for yourself to go to get out of an argument/situation or to just get away from everyone is a must. For me that’s just going outside on our deck or front step. My mom is able to see me in both of those places, but she sees me writing, talking on the phone, or reading. This means that she sees that I’m busy/preoccupied so she won’t come bother me unless it’s necessary, which means that I get some time alone to breath and just think when the house gets noisy or chaotic.

Just to clarify this isn’t a knock against anyone that I live with. I’m an introvert, which for me can mean that being with people all of the time can drive me up a wall if we can’t just sit and be quiet. My mom is sort of the opposite, she loves to talk with my brother and I when we’re around which isn’t a bad thing by any means. For me, though, since I don’t feel like I can politely tell my mom to please be quiet and just let me be it means that I have to choose to remove myself from that room. Once again this isn’t anything against my mom or saying that she’s wrong or something, it just means that we’re different people and that’s OK.

The last thing that I’ve learned is that you don’t have to like your family, but you have to love them.

This isn’t anything new, this phrase actually came up a lot of me in high school but is really relevant in my life now. I don’t have to like anyone in my family, and with the amount of times I’ve wanted to hurt my brother or kick him out this week will attest to that. At the end of the day I still love him and I’m happy to hear when his car pulls up and he’s home safe. You can have as many arguments, as many fights, or as many screaming sessions as you want but you still have to love each other.

I know that this is hard, but when you live anywhere with three people you WILL NOT agree on everything, and especially when it’s with your family you have to fix the issue. When you live with family you have to love them because most of the time they aren’t going anywhere and you still have to live with the.

The last week has been hard, and has been one hell of an adjustment, but with some really good communication and a little bit of help from everyone involved I know that this will all work out and be fine.

I’ve learned a lot more in the last week than is in this post, so watch out for more on this topic in the future. (And if you’re moving in with your family again leave a question down below and it might turn into a post.)

I’ll see you soon,

~Amanda

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Moana

So, this is sort of going to be a fun little post because I finally got to watch Moana with one of my friends. Now this doesn’t seem like a big deal, but we’ve been trying to see this movie since it was in theaters. BEfore I even started trying to see this movie with my friend he had been trying to see it since the release date.

When we tried to go see it in theaters we failed because we couldn’t get our schedules to match, so we agreed to see it when it came out on DVD. So fast forward to about a month ago when I was walking through target with my mom to find that it had come out. I bought a copy and got to watch Moana that night with my family. It was a good movie and I enjoyed it,  but I was still bent on watching it with my friend.

So the next week I had planned on going over to his house to watch the movie that I bad brought with me from home, but guess where the DVD was.

If you guessed at by mom’s house in the DVD player you’re right.

So that night we passed again, and rescheduled Moana for the next weekend. We still had a great time watching Game of Thones, though.

So I call my mom and she decided to mail me the DVD. And….I lost it. I’m really hoping that I find it while I clean my room to move, but at the moment that DVD is MIA and I had to buy a new one.

So that brings us to last weekend, where my friend didn’t really want to go home and ended up following me to target and then coming to my house to FINALLY watch the movie. This didn’t work either. Sadly, one of our other friends had gotten into a tight spot and he needed to go help her out.

But we finally got to see the movie, and we both enjoyed it.

Overall it was a great night, and I find it to be a funny story.

See you soon,

Amanda

What I Hate About Family Gatherings

I’m going to start this by saying that I absolutely love my family, with that being, said they get on my nerves just like any other family members. Although I love them and I adore all of them There are still some things that I absolutely hate about family gatherings, and since Easter is coming up I thought that I would share some, because let’s face it they’re kind of funny sometimes.

The first thing I HATE, but totally get is the infamous college and after college questions. They’re the questions like “what are you doing after college?” “where are you going to college?” “what are your plans after high school?” “have you found a job yet?” “Are you going to be working an internship this summer?” All of those types of questions. Part of me does love them because I know that people are curious and that they are genuinely curious, and that’s great, but I swear every family member asks these questions of everyone and it’s so annoying. That and everyone in the age group that has to deal with these questions knows before they even get to the event that they’re going to get all of these questions and are already hate the questions.

Like the other day I was talking with one of my cousins and both of us knew that these questions were in our future, so we decided to hope that the upcoming weddings in our families take the spotlight. Since we know that won’t work we’re going to point all of our family members towards our third cousin that’s graduating this year, insisting that he has better plans than both of us combined. (Side note, we don’t know what our third cousin is up to. He just wasn’t part of the conversation so we decided he could deal with it.)

The next thing that I hate is just being in that awkward stage where you don’t fit in with the adults, but you’re too old for the kids. Like Park of me doesn’t really care, but the other part of me wonders what I’m supposed to do because I don’t know anything about Disney Channel, but I can’t afford to go travel cool places or know what you’re talking about when it comes to politics. So this makes me sit on the couch playing on my phone and being anti-social and rude, which will get commented on. The only thing that I can do to solve this is grab any of my cousins who are in college or late high school and talk with them in hopes that no real adult will come talk to us because I don’t know what I’m doing.

I’m also not sure about anyone else, but if you come from a big family like my dad’s side, you will meet at new family member at every family event. I’m not talking about the little babies, because guess what I know all those babies and gave you a gift, I’m talking about adults that you didn’t know existed but are apparently my cousin. I’ve actually gotten to the point of OK, welcome to the family, and I don’t question it I walk away and find my second cousins that I grew up with so that I actually know people and know what they’re up to so I can actually talk with them.

I do love all my family and I do like to see them. I’m just an introvert, so hanging out with everyone in smaller groups with no one asking me about my plan for the future, because let’s face it I can’t even stick to or create a real meal plan that doesn’t involve McDonalds.

If you can relate to any of this let me know in the comments. If you’re a family member of mine and you’ve made it this far, please ask me how work is going and not about what I’m doing come May 15th. Please?

See you soon,

~Amanda

Lucia Changed Cages… again

Alright, alright, I know this is very stressful on hamsters and I shouldn’t be doing this, but hear me out ok?

So with the Tube Kingdom I think I spent an hour a day to make sure that Lucia was able to stay in her cage, but it never seemed to work. Lucia kept getting out basically every other day. So we had to change her cage back to a simple bin cage so that she wouldn’t escape. That worked for like a day though because she managed to escape.

Anyway so we had to witch Lucia back to a bin cage after being in the tube kingdom for a month after she escaped way to much and made me really mad. This is mostly for her safety, because to be honest I’m not a the tidy-est person you will ever meet and often times there is chocolate pieces under my bed and she can’t have those. She also has a tendency to take my yarn and pouch it so that she can use it as nesting material.

So although it can be stressful for hamsters to switch cages so often I ended up doing it in order to keep her safe.

And yeah, that’s honestly all I have for this week.

What’s the weirdest thing that you’ve done for your pet’s saftey? Let me know down below.

See you soon,

~Amanda

Three Ways I’ve Planned My School Work

Over the last two years that I’ve been using Erin Condren Planners I’ve used three different methods of checking my school work, and today I really wanted to share them with you. With anything there are infinite different ways to do this, but these are the three that have worked for me and that I’ve found have helped me a lot.

Half Boxes

The first way I noted my school word was that every class got a half box on the day that I had that class. This was really helpful and worked when I was only writing down what was due that day, but I found that if I was writing down the readings, quizzes, or anything in detail it wasn’t as useful and it actually became really crowded. What I did really like, though, was that this method had me constantly going to the syllabus and I was more attentive to making sure that the right thing was read for that class. It also looked really nice in my planner and helped me get the overview of everything really easily.

Checklists

For me I found that this was the most effective way to get a lot of information down, but it didn’t look very good. Every day, at the top of my planner, I had a checklist for my school work. I would have a three heart checklist if I only had one class in a day or a five heart checklist if  I had two or more classes in a day. I really liked how much detail I was able to go into, and it was a great system, but it wasn’t exactly what I was looking for. I felt like it made my planner look messy and overwhelmed me at the very beginning of each day, even if everything was checked off and I didn’t need to do anything before class that day. I also didn’t like that I was often missing things because I wouldn’t look at the syllabus as often anymore, and that bothered me as well. I think that this only lasted a month or two, and although it was efficient I just didn’t really like it.

Using the Sidebar

I don’t know why the everyday checklists overwhelmed me, but this doesn’t. Every week lately I’ve been putting down as many check lists as I can in my sidebar, and at the top I write all of the assignments that are do and under those all of the readings that I have to do. I actually really like this system and I don’t really know why, but it seems easier than the checklists every day and really does work for me.

If you’re a student how to do you mark your homework and due dates in your planner? Let me know down in the comments!

See you soon,

Amanda

Graduation Countdown Has Begun

I am incredibly guilty of having moments where things that I know are happening suddenly become very very real. Unlike last time, though, I can’t put this one off. The last time I had one of these moments was when Kurt asked me about a lamp and I realized that I would be moving in with him. Now we aren’t moving in together, but this time I can’t put my new “lamp” off.

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Plan With Me

Although next week I promise I will have not a plan with me this week my posts have slipped a little, so enjoy this plan with me before we return to our regularly scheduled programming next week!